Category: Dating and Relationships
Scenario.
You have collected quality sex toys; things you prefer and make you feel good.
You have collected toys at your place specifically to use on your lover to heighten your experience.
These toys were shared with your current lover, but that relationship has ended.
Quality sex toys can be washed and cleaned just like your bedding, dishes, spoons, glasses, forks.
They come with cleaning instructions on the packaging.
Can sex toys be put in the same category as spoons, forks, glass wear, bedding?
Is it acceptable, or not acceptable to offer to share your toys with your next lover?
Well, noooooooooooooooooooo! )Note there are 20 letter os in that no since JAWS does not lengthen it out long enough to enunciate my distaste!) lol
Ye gods, man! Of course, that will depend on the people involved. I'm sure some would not be disturbed perhaps even titillated.
Of course, you can keep all the sex toys, used or unused so my opinion counts for little on this subject.
And it is a rather psychological thing as much as a hygienic thing.
Smile.
Thanks for that, um Nooo!
Keep postingpeople.
Ugh! No, although I don't guess most people would stop to wonder about this, so if you just didn't mention how long you'd had the things and with who you used them...
Suppose they were your personal toys meaning you used them, or they were used on you?
Could you then offer them and not say anything else about it?
Some of these items can get pretty expensive.
If you look at it from a common sense angle, if you go home with someone and they have sex toys it's probably a 50/50 shot that those toys were used on someone other than the owner so if the person gets out the toys and you're amenable to toys you had better be okay that they aren't monogamous toys, so to speak.
A person should be prepared to speak what is on his/her mind and ask if they were used with another partner and say no if that bothers them.
Sure. You're correct on this.
Smile. My personal take on this, is if they are quality toys, and clean, I'm not going to care what happened before me.
I eat off spoons, plates. I drink out of glasses, and never think about who's lips were on them.
I stay in hotels, and have no idea what happened in the bed I'm about to get in to, nor how soon before I arrived.
Okay, so my 2 cents?
I did, and still wonder what people think, so keep the post coming, if you desire. Interesting.
I guess I view them much like tools a doctor uses on you.
For women, you go to your GYN, and she/he uses things on you all the time. I confess, it has been awhile sense I've gone to one with a partner, so do they now have disposable tools?
I'll try to answer this without getting too personal.
When I started dating my current boyfriend five years ago, he had some... ahh... leather and chain accessories and implements from his previous relationship. That is a little different than sex toys precisely, but there was still some discomfort on my end. I think it stemmed from being new and still insecure in the relationship. I couldn't help but think of how they had been used before, and it was something that I just pushed past and got over. I was a little weirded out, but I didn't say anything to him. I tried not to really think about it. Now, five years in, I don't have those same feelings towards those accessories.
I don't know if I would be able to get over sex toys in the same way. I mean, being inside another person is a little more involved. Touching another person's bodily fluid adds an extra layer on. I think it's definitely made more difficult if you know the previous person's name or have heard stories about them. If they're just a nameless being, it might be easier to handle.
Ah. Interesting. Okay. Thanks for that.
I know a couple who had an interesting experience. She'd bought a vibrating dildo and didn't say anything about it to her husband. well, a few weeks later, she lost the thing. It just seemed to have disappeared. She searched for it for quite some time, then she finally found it, under the hubby's side of the bed, with shit on it. She was totally grosed out and assumed he was really gay. She said he could have the dildo. She didn't want it. LOL I just found the whole thing amusing.
Well, she didn't tell him about it, so she didn't want him involved in her toy play.
When he decided to try it on himself, and didn't tell her, well?
Guess you need full disclosure on these things, huh?
I've found some women actually believe if you want anal play at all, even with them, you must be gay, or thinking about being gay. It is one of these weird things.
I had a vibrator, which was curiously shaped like a computer mouse.
it's like a toilet seat, you know it's been used, more than likely, but you just don't think about who may or may not of used it before you.
I'd hope folks keep these things cleaner then public toilet seats.
If not, maybe you also should wonder about the person in question too?
Laughing.
Wayne, I'm curious. feel free to answer me off board if you want, but do you enjoy toying your own ass and/or having your partner toy it?
Answer...
Right here on board.
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I would not want to start dating a guy and he pull out a toy he had for his X. It is a body fluid thing.
But here is something to think about...
Your own parts were used with other people and you still play with eachothers bits and junk... lol
So do you think about what had happened with their areas prior to your visits?
Now with that said, your body self cleans, you shower and so on. Toys despite cleaning, makes me feel like they just keep growing dirty...
I tend to replace my things regularly any how...
Ah. So a man could have a really great dildo and just say think of it like my penis?
Just might work, huh?
Laughing.
Thanks for your post.
LOL. Not sure. I think I would demand new things. I want to see the packaging...
Laughing.
I'm still wondering about this packaging for men?
I have this notion of being wrapped in surround wrap?
Giggle.
Packaging could be interpreted many ways.
True.
Lets see, red tin foil, the one ply type with a silk ribbon?
Prehaps, a great pair of jeans, and silk underwear?
Oh, but we're talking toys, not the man, right?
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Lol even though you offered all that advice ... nooooooo! I'm sorry, but it just sounds so so so wrong! noooo, irk!
As long as they are properly cleaned don’t see a problem but would not advertise that they were used with other people. I do have 1 sex toy for my self but it’s more for my buddy down there, lol